Inspired Counseling — The Golden Keys — Guaranteed Tools for Codependent Recovery


Life Directions
Counseling Center
Jannette Robert Murray
Psychotherapist
Clinical Hypnotherapist
Group Therapy Facilitator
Energy Therapist
Life & Spiritual Coach
(509) 922-3915
Telephone hours:
10 AM – 7 PM, 7 Days
(At other hours,
please send E-mail)

Best Phone Time:
10 AM – Noon, Pac. Time

P. O. Box 14379
Spokane, Washington 99214-0379
Established 1984
www.inspiredcounseling.com
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This is an interactive web site: I now have the ability to chat with you (if you desire), to answer your questions, and to offer you more pages that answer your search engine question... sometimes better than a search engine has delivered to you! They can only give you what you ask for, and while I do my best to write a page, to trigger that result — we don’t always succeed, so allow me to suggest other pages for you...

The information presented on these pages is extensive — there are more than 100 pages here; and so far it is available at no cost.


It is not intended the information here will get you well, nor should you expect to overcome any of the dysfunctional patterns by yourself, nor with just awareness. (It doesn’t work that way — and wishing won’t make it so. Memorizing these pages won’t make it happen.) These pages are here to inform you about the counseling therapy available at Life Directions Counseling Center, its real benefits (geniune results), and how to take advantage of it.


If you want complete wellness and reversal of behavioral patterns, it does take your full participation in and commitment to a complete and comprehensive program of counseling therapy — one such as this (there is no other like this), which gives you ALL the TOOLS, guides you in their use and supports you in your full growth and recovery... all the way into the new life you design. READ ON... THIS PROGRAM EXISTS NOWHERE ELSE!


Pardon our dust!

This web site is undergoing major reconstruction, as we move all pages from one web host to another, change from Windows servers to Linux servers, and make all the required changes to allow finicky Linux to find the files!

If you cannot find a page that seems to have a link, it will reappear soon / eventually! This happens based on popularity, so express your desire...

In addition, we are doing lots of new things, that all take time, so please be patient while this work goes on. Check back often to see what additional pages are up, and announcements of membership percs, etc., coming soon... plus blogs, newsletter activity, Meeting Room, and more...

The Therapy Practice is open and available to you during our web site re-construction, plus people are currently requesting a Therapy/Support Group; so our Visitors online are welcome to get involved and participate from a distance, as well.

Though you may not see me shown as "Online" in the Chat Windows, I could still be here, and will receive your request to communicate, if you send me an email — which I check about three times each day. Talk to me!

And if you happen to be in our Spokane / Inland Empire Area, keep your eyes open for announcement of ONDAMED® availability here... This is exciting!

KEEP WATCHING!

Of the over 100 pages on this web site, these are some of the more important for you:

Home Page

This is an Interactive Site!

Jannette’s Latest Letter/
=>Announcements<=

READ MY EXCITING NEWS!

Find Out Why People
Love This Therapy

Read this Powerful Testimonial
YOU CAN GET THE SAME RESULTS!

Spiritual Coaching

What Am I Going to
Get Out of This?

What Does it Take For
Real Results?
These Tools Are Guaranteed!

How to Access Jannette’s Help

Contacting Jannette &
Your Time Zone Conversion

Cure the Holiday Blues!
Prevent Another Disaster!

Books & Tapes Recommended

Health-Related Products
Recommended

Commentary on Dr. Phil,
Oprah Guests
& Other Issues!

“Insights & Inspirations”
Ezine Archive

Inspired Quotes

THE DYSFUNCTIONAL PATTERNS:

Identifying the Codependent Pattern

Can’t Say No?

Are You An Enabler?

Domestic Violence –
A Progressive Pattern!

THE TREATMENT:

Treating These Patterns

Self-Esteem and Your Life!

Your Healthy, Happy Future

What Does it Take For
Real Results?

ARTICLES:

Be a Healthy Valentine...
all year long!

Parenting Issues

Depression & Drug Therapy vs.
Effective Counseling Therapy

TESTIMONIALS:

Read this Powerful Testimonial
YOU CAN GET THE SAME RESULTS!

Testimonials

Read What This
Recovering Alcoholic Says...
(Dulcie’s Testimonials)

SPECIAL FOCUS:

What’s Coming to
This Site

About This Site
/Your Feedback

You Can Be Smoke-Free
Through Hypnosis

Healthy Relationships
for Couples & Singles

The Spiritual Side

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Whether You’re Looking for Information,
Seeking Answers,
or You Are Ready to Actually...
Do Something About It All...

Right NOW


You’ve Finally Found, Here...
Counseling That Really Works!
The Answers That Have Eluded You...
The Hidden Keys to
Important Doors...
The Effective Tools in This Method That’s

Truly Different... with... Lasting Results
for Healing, Growth & Change... for Your Lifetime

This is Your REAL Help to...

• Have Relationships That are Healthy...
• Stop Playing into the Control, Abuse and Bad Behaviors of a Misogynist!
• Avoid Put-downs and Abusive Treatment from Partners...
• Reverse Codependence and other Unproductive Behavior Patterns in yourself — ALL of Them!
• Stop These Repeating Patterns — permanently!
• Put an End to Switching / Multiple Addictions
• Be Able to Let Go of People Who Aren’t Good for You...
• Stop Enabling the Unhealthy Addictions of Others in Your Life!
• Get Others to Take Responsibility for Their Own Lives...
• Get Others to Stop Controlling You...
• or Interfering in Your Life!
• Heal All the Negative Effects of Your Background and Family of Origin!
• Gain Your Kids’ Respect and Improve Discipline!
• Become Assertive — Say What you Feel and
• Ask for What You Want!
• Realize Those Goals You’ve Only Dreamed of...
• Get Your Self-Esteem Way Up There! ...and Keep It Up!
Own the TOOLS to Achieve Real Happiness and Success...
• Be Happy! Stay Up and Stimulated / Fulfilled...
• Energized and Fascinated with Life!




All of your experiences (till now)
were scripted in your past...

“You cannot change your past ...but you can
heal the pain and trauma of childhood

and you CAN CHANGE YOUR FUTURE...
starting ...right NOW! ...and right HERE!
You CAN regain Personal POWER,
RE-SCRIPT and CONTROL your own life...”


Inspired Counseling – Guaranteed Tools for Complete and Permanent Recovery “You continue to go through it,
Until you grow through it!

“When you get tired of the pain...
You will start to do the work to get well!”

Guaranteed Tools
for Personal Healing, Growth and Lifetime Results...




Have you been told you are Codependent?
Perhaps you are an Enabler? ...Always Fixing? ...Over-giving?
Do you feel needy?
Are you addicted to a Person? ...to Sex?
Do you have to have a relationship?
...Your friends getting tired of hearing about it?
Are you in and out of one bad relationship after another?
...Or do you keep leaving and returning to the same one?
Are you abusive? ...abused? ...Verbally/Emotionally/Physically?
Being controlled... isolated?
Are You Miserable? ...Depressed?
Unhappy, but you don’t know why?
Are you an Emotional Eater?
Is your life not working?
Are you seeing repeating patterns in your life?
Is there dysfunction in your background
...your family of origin, or other situation(s)?

Does any or much of the above describe you?

Claim your “Golden Keys to Healing”...

“Discover How to Get All of Your Life & Relationships Giving You the Results You Want!”

Claim the TOOLS that Get Your Life Working For You —

  NOW... and Ongoing... NO MORE WAITING!

...No more HOPING or WISHING: “...if only there were somebody who could just help me...”!

There is... Your Help is HERE...

Accept nothing less than
The Golden Keys!!!


...and you find you DO gain a whole lot more... (I promise!)

Are You Looking for Information?

If you came to this site looking for information, there’s lots of it here... And if so, you may be like a lot of people I hear from: you’ve read a lot of books, taken seminars... maybe even tried some counseling... but nothing’s changed...

What will information do for you?

It can give you awareness...

And what is awareness?

It is the first step to get the results you want
but only the first step!

By itself, information doesn’t change anything!

If all you have is information / awareness (if that’s all you do is gather information) — you will have no change...


At best, information can help you compare therapy methods!

So, what has the counseling you’ve tried thus far done for you?

If it was traditional therapy, you had the chance to spill your guts, and maybe felt a little better when you left the therapist’s office ...but nothing changed.

There were no tools! You may have liked the therapist, but you got no results!

There might have been some suggestions made, but it didn’t help; if any of them had merit, you likely couldn’t follow through (because you didn’t have the confidence, the strength to do them). Again, no change resulted, or no lasting change.

Training for traditional therapists teaches them no tools to give you!

Traditional therapy expects you to use will power, and you and I know will power doesn’t work / doesn’t last.

However... if you want things to change — to GET BETTER — then you have to change somethingand how do you do that?
That is what this program of counseling therapy helps you to do ...in the most effective, yet gentle way possible.

...And from the inside out (not trying to force change from the outside in — which just creates more resistance from your subconscious).

In “The Golden Keys” you learn how to get your subconscious working with you, not against you, not sabotaging you... a total 180-degree difference!

You’ve read it lots of places:

If you continue to do what you’ve always done, you will continue to get what you’ve always gotten...

“So, What’s Different Here?”

These “Golden Keys” are the TOOLS that help you do exactly what you want to do — to change your results — by healing the causes of your patterned behaviors!

I don’t want to belabor the point, but it bears repeating...

(READ IT AGAIN... AND AGAIN... AND AGAIN... UNTIL YOU’VE GOT IT!!)
“If you want your life to change, you have to change something...”

And that something is YOU:

  • what you’re doing...
  • what you’re thinking and saying...
  • what you’re believing!

In order to begin to attract different responses from others... in fact, from your whole world...

  1. There is only one person you can change... and that is YOU!

    You’ve probably been blaming it all on other people... circumstances... your boss... your mate... your dysfunctional family of origin...

    However, there is a reason all these things aren’t working in your life...

  2. YOU are in a pattern! (at least one...)

    (Others probably are, too, but you can only work on yourself).

    When you change... situations, others in your life, and all that you are attracting changes, too...

  3. Effective change happens only from the inside out!

    When you change, there is a ripple effect and others respond differently to you.

  4. Yes, I know, I didn’t want to hear / read the word “addict” applied to myself, when I first started to study about codependence, either... but we have to get out of our own denial, or we are keeping ourselves from our own healing, our own happiness, and our own peace of mind...

    Yes, you can have PEACE OF MIND.

  5. ...And it happens easily, naturally and automatically with the TOOLS I give you in My Golden Keys counseling therapy program.

“What’s in this for me?”

For those who like fast answers to the question of “What’s in this for me?”, here is a brief list of benefits my clients gain, taken from our intake paperwork (my promises to you):

“I understand that when I graduate from this counseling therapy:

  • “I will have gained emotional balance, self-esteem, confidence, personal power and strength.

  • “I will have acquired and practiced new skills of communication and healthy habits of loving myself and others,

  • “...which can give me the results I desire, and which enable me to do that in much more constructive ways.

  • “I will have been given the secrets of how to re-script my life and results, to realize my own goals; and begun to practice those, gaining my desired results.

  • “I will have established a sense of my own value, and of the values I desire to demonstrate in my life;

  • “and to which I prefer those who come into my life also ascribe.

  • “I will have already begun to attract healthier people and situations into my life, and know that their degree of health is a good gauge of my own growing healthy balance.

  • “That this therapy and all awareness and skills I have gained therein will constitute an ‘Owner’s Manual’ for dealing with all of life more productively.

  • “I will have acquired tools which I may continue to use on my own, to keep myself balanced, happy and healthy for the rest of my life, and to deal with all of the normal and usual situations and stresses of life — and to do so much more easily; and

  • “The rocks and boulders on the road of life, will have smoothed out for me . . . ”
To learn how we do this, read on...

And... read the results in my clients’ own words... in their numerous testimonials on these pages, and more...


Welcome to Inspired Counseling.com

the web pages of
Jannette Robert Murray

Psychotherapist & Clinical Hypnotherapist

Life, Business & Spiritual Coach

and

Life Directions Counseling Center —

Home of “The Golden Keys to Recovery”

Therapeutic TOOLS for Gaining
Your Healthy Balance in Life!


Ask Yourself:

Are You Ready to Get Your Life Working for You...?
To Have Your Relationships Working Better...?
To Finally (& Fully) Conquer Any & All Unhealthy Patterns
...Including Codependence & Anger/Abusive Behaviors?
To Get Along Better With Family...?
To Take Back Your Personal Power...?
To Regain Discipline and the Respect of Your Children...?
To Feel That You Control Your Life Again...?
To Find Your True Work/Purpose and Success...?

Then, you’ve Come to the Right Place... Because...

The dysfunctions from your past (childhood & beyond) do ABSOLUTELY affect your present and future...

and they must be healed...
before you can move forward with your life...
before you can expect relationship success...
And these patterns do continue to worsen...
Until you do the effective personal growth work
That can truly heal all of your challenges...

SO WASTE NOT ONE MINUTE MORE BEING UNHAPPY...

WASTE NO MORE TIME AND MONEY IN TRADITIONAL COUNSELING...
ACCEPT NO MORE MISERABLE HOURS AND DAYS...

Heal Your Background NOW —

If you are a survivor of family dysfunction, (including, but not limited to: any of the varieties of unhealthy parenting, abuse, alcoholism, drug addiction, rape or incest, and other ‘adult child’ issues), you are absolutely affected (in varying degrees) by all of your background. ...and are increasingly affected, until you do truly effective healing and inner growth work!

If there are ways your life and relationships are not measuring up to your desires and expectations – you can change that! It’s time to heal the trauma and pain forever, so it stops getting in your way (even if you think – and may doggedly try to believe – it’s not)!
Do you notice how the same kinds of problems / people / situations keep coming up in your life? (Your patterns)
You CAN STOP this now!

THIS proven effective Counseling therapy does helpeveryone who truly desires help — including you, to completely heal and reverse it all!

  • Maybe you’ve tried traditional counseling — many have (often repeatedly) — and found it wanting!

  • You may have “read all the books, and taken all the seminars and teleclasses”; or purchased one or many highly touted programs online/on TV, yet still are in your same old pattern, getting your same old results...
    and probably getting worse.

  • Maybe you’re scared to try something that really works... to change... (I help you with that resistance — the fear of change — early on.) Get ready for different results! ...the results you really want... results YOU design...

    We do it gradually — at your pace — so to lessen the amount of resistance your subconscious gives you...

This Golden Keys Counseling Therapy is tailored just for you...

So... the sooner you START, the sooner you begin to feel better... STARTING NOW!

It’s not weird; it’s beyond-traditional (which is why it’s effective); it’s not scary — in fact, we start by helping you to feel a lot better about yourself... and that’s just one BIG reason why it all works! Self-esteem is one of the Keys...

It’s Easier Than You Might Think...

Counseling therapy is private, confidential, and the way I do it, it’s very natural and relaxed. You can do all or most of what it takes in the privacy of your own home.

In Group Therapy/Support, you have the promise of others in your group to maintain your confidence and anonymity, just as you promise to maintain theirs. Plus if we use our new Online Meeting Room, you use a pseudonym, for your privacy.

I am located in Spokane Valley, Washington (Pacific Northwest, USA), and I work with you wherever you are (as long as you speak English)... on the phone, online (we can use the new Meeting Room), including with sound (picture is optional); or here in my comfortable home office.

Proven effective (since 1986), “The Golden Keys...”, my complete Recovery Therapy program, gives you the tools to help you heal the causes and move out of your pain, hurt, addictive behaviors – and whatever relationship patterns and habits of communication are blocking your good, your success and your real happiness.

My unique, proven effective ‘model’ program of counseling therapy goes so far beyond what you could get (or got) from traditional passive, listening therapy... You get the real and lasting results you need — for a change!

This method is complete and comprehensive. It addresses all of your behaviors, your addictions, your patterns. It helps you prevent switching addictions.

IT DOES NOT ASK YOU TO USE WILL POWER! (That doesn’t work/doesn’t last, anyway!!)

(Traditional passive listening therapy does NOT give you these tools.)


Who Uses This Therapy/Who Does It Benefit?

Doctors, Nurses, Firemen, Lawyers, Engineers, Office Workers, Business Owners, Teachers, Students...

Moms, Dads, Children, Teens, Grandma, Grandpa...

...People just like you.

I’m here to help you.


“What Kind of Problems Do You Help?”

My clients bring me these challenges and more (and usually far more than one):

  • Codependence / Relationship Addiction
  • Enabling others
  • Marital problems / relationship challenges; affairs
  • Dysfunctional Family of Origin
  • Abuse of all kinds (verbal / emotional, physical, sexual); rape; incest
  • Domestic/intimate partner violence
  • Feelings of insecurity / jealousy / possessive behavior
  • Low self-esteem / Lack of assertiveness
  • Kids out of control / following in parent(s)’ footsteps
  • Lack of confidence (in whatever area)
  • Can’t say “no”
  • Feeling powerless, blocked
  • Lacking success or prosperity (money & other Good)
  • Credit / spending problems; credit cards maxed out
  • Pain, despair, depression, heartache, anxiety
  • Emotions affecting your health
  • Addiction of every kind – to:
    • Person(s) / Relationships
    • Sex
    • Alcohol, drugs
    • Controlling / fixing others
    • Gambling
    • Family enmeshment
    • Emotional incest
    • Work, volunteering
    • Shopping / spending
    • Food in excess / sugar / carbohydrates / fats / salty foods
    • Saving things / clutter
    • Cleaning / vacuuming
    • Religion or cult
    • Exercise / running
    • Sports
    • TV, soap operas, the computer / Internet!

...for virtually all your challenges / addictions / dysfunctions — all of the ways that you run away from feeling your feelings — this unique, proprietary ‘model’ program – my proven method of counseling therapy is your complete and ‘final answer’...

Because we can solve these challenges together. ...and if you are already experiencing all/most/many of the above, ALL of them are taken care of, over the term of your counseling, and just very naturally, as you do this God-given growth for your truly happy, fulfilled life!

And it doesn’t take forever — this is medium-term counseling; where you learn tools to use for the rest of your life, to keep yourself healthy and growing! You get your ‘Owner’s Manual’ for living life in this world... for making it all work for you!

These testimonials you see in the right panel (and on my other pages) are written by real clients – people dealing with real challenges, probably very much like YOURS.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel!

This truly works!

“Is it Really Possible? Can I Truly Change My Results?”

Yes, it is possible. You can get results similar to those that my clients – people just like you – get. And to the degree that you truly apply what I give you to do, and finish the program, I promise you do get results!

I GUARANTEE these tools work!

All of my clients have been using this therapy very successfully since I developed it in 1986. I often see 180° turnarounds, in individuals with very severe patterns.

Just two examples:

  • Andrea became more confident, raised her self-esteem, worked on communication tools, and her people skills, got a promotion, and eventually a truly great job with another firm, which was a dramatic step up.

  • Danny moved out of the relationship that was causing him so much pain — after he become more sure that he deserved to be treated better. He has gained custody of his children (removing them from the daily influence of their drug-abusing mother).

  • Many of my female clients have been able to leave abusive relationships, and are doing very well on their own. They are raising their kids free of the influence of abuse. (Children learn what they live.)

Find your answers to these questions on the next page:

  • “What Can I Expect? How Good Can I Feel?”
  • “Is this Confidential? Can I Count on Privacy About My Issues?”
...to learn if this is for you;
and more big benefits you gain,
growing and healing in The Golden Keys...

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I’m easy to talk with; and may approach you to chat; I hope you’ll know it’s really me (not a pop-up), and won’t run away or slam the door in my face! I might be offering you some additional information I believe is important for you / your search question... 8^)


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TESTIMONIALS


“I didn’t tell her when I called, but I had tried other counselors before, and this was my last-ditch effort. She told me that if I would do what she gave me to do and stay with it, she guaranteed I would get results.

“I tried it, in both private counseling and group therapy... and she was right. Her methods work!

“Everyone should be doing this!”

“Jannette, you saved my life!”

— S.L. (Private Client
& Group Therapy/
Support Graduate)


“These are the tools you need to make permanent changes in your life.

“I learned to take my life back for me; to set limits and boundaries. I recognize patterns and addictions & change them.

“I learned that I need growth in my life forever and to appreciate it. I can recognize addictive behaviors in others and be more choosy in the relationships I get involved in. I let people own their own problems.

“I would recommend the program to anyone who wants change in their life. I feel better about myself than I ever have in my life.”

- C.L. (Private Client & Stage I Graduate)


“I am becoming aware of my underlying behavior patterns and how I can become a whole person — a more wholesome person—in the future. In the first book, I was surprised to discover my own internal deny-and-control manifestations, from childhood, and how they affect my reactions to situations. As I improve self-esteem, I will be able to become more assertive and feel empowered; I will be able to set good boundaries and know that I deserve to have them honored.

“Just three weeks into my counseling with Jannette and I can see how her approach will help me to clear out all the old cobwebs from my life that have been limiting me, blocking my vision; and now be able to move on toward a more positive future; these skills will carry through, and will be utilized in every facet of my life and success.”

— A.K. (Private Client)


[Seeing own & everyone’s] “Need to continue with self-improvement. I go thru the handouts when I need encouragement or peace of mind. Have become more self-confident, assertive in my relationships; do good things for myself; feel more at peace within. Feel my changes happening slowly.

“Process very unique — the person has to do the work, as opposed to just talking to a counselor. I recommend the process to anyone. It’s more than just seeing a therapist.

“On a scale of 1 to 5, I rate it a 5.”

— B.M. (Private Client & Stage I Group Graduate, twice)


Jannette Robert Murray

Jannette Robert Murray
Psychotherapist &
Clinical Hypnotherapist


“The Golden Keys Process is about learning the way to break destructive patterns and feel good about ourselves - feel we’re individually OK. Find good healthy relationships or be content without - feel complete without.

“I learned a lot about myself and my addictive behaviors... that I can’t control other people’s emotions... there is no right or wrong.

“That there will always be available men (don’t grab them as if they’re the last chance on earth).

“The homework has been helpful in stimulating the awareness of my behavior patterns.

“I have a lot of work left, but have received a huge number of tools to help me continue to improve. I feel more optimistic about the future... more calm - more confident.

“It’s good. I wish I had been able to go through the process 10 years ago - it would have saved a lot of heartache and bad decisions.”

- T.M. (Stage I Group Graduate)